How to tell someone how yucky their bathroom was....

[KnottedYet]

Can you sneak in a bottle of cleaner and do a job on the tub/shower?

I've been known to do that.

Think of it as a way of saying "thank you" as opposed to a criticism.

"Thank you so much for letting us stay, I thought I'd clean up after ourselves to save you the trouble."

[Brandi]

I would but they are now 60 miles from me. I even looked under the counter for cleaning stuff with no luck!

[KnottedYet]

Well, if you've already left and won't be going back anytime soon, you may just have to let it go.

[Brandi]

There might not be a way to bring it up and remain friends.

I like Knot's idea.

I know! I don't want to ruin our friendship. I was thinking of telling her daughter on the sly maybe.

[Owlie]

I know! I don't want to ruin our friendship. I was thinking of telling her daughter on the sly maybe.

I'm not so sure that's a good idea. I think I'd just let it go.

[goldfinch]

Let it go.

[Brandi]

Yea letting it go is probably the way to go. If I stay again I will have to bring a bottle of cleaner.
You think you know a person. My husband was shocked.

[tulip]

Yuck-o! I've had that experience, but luckily there was cleaner in the bathroom, so I just cleaned it. It was a rarely used bathroom so I think the host just didn't know.

Does your friend use that shower? Maybe she just doesn't know because she expects her grown kids to take on that responsibility and they are not doing it but she assumes they are. Maybe you could talk to the daughter and say something like, "you're old enough to clean your own shower. Surely you don't expect your mom to clean it for you. It was not acceptable and I thought you should know because that's a responsibility that you will need to take when you get your own place." Could get back to mom, though.

Maybe there's some parent-kid power struggle and mom's on strike and the kids are bozos. It happens.

Maybe your friend is having vision problems. I suspected as much about my own mother when I saw her shower, and it turned out to be true. Her tiles are earth-toned and she could not see the mold because her vision was getting bad.

EDIT: While I was writing this tome, a bunch of people said to just let it go. Sounds like maybe it's the best plan, unless you think something bigger is amiss.

EDIT2: Not sure I'd want to be sitting in her hot tub...

[Brandi]

She does have to use reading glasses. Maybe there is an issue with that?

[bmccasland]

She does have to use reading glasses. Maybe there is an issue with that?

Probably not. I wear reading glasses - they only help clarify things close up. My guess is that she doesn't enter the bathroom very often. But I vote with the "let it go group." But if your friend brings up having respiratory problems, headaches, you might mention that you did see a bit of a mold problem in the bathroom and this could be contributing to her (or the family's) health issues. Mold is bad to breathe in.

[Biciclista]

My grandmother was an extremely fastidious housekeeper. My mother and I were surprised to notice her housekeeping skills went downhill when her vision got worse. She couldn't see it. It was when she still had lots of energy and interest in life, so I know it was her eyes.
I agree with the others. Don't say anything (ESPECIALLY to kids that were RAISED that way) but next time (if there is one) Just clean it!

[malkin]

I remember my aunt freaking out when her mother, my grandmother had ants marching across the kitchen. Of course, granny couldn't see them.

When my brother moved to Honolulu, I battled the mold on my annual visits.

But, unless you are very close, I agree with everyone who says "fagedaboudit"!

[Brandi]

I have bad allergies to mold. Maybe that is why it freaked me out. I didn't want to wash my face in the shower. I was afraid. I had a friend once who got a bad fungus from her razor. Had to take anitibiotics for it. And she is has VERY bad eye's and can't see a thing without them so I could see that happening to her.

[grey]

My MIL never cleans house. Usually when we stay there we find a way to send her to the store so I can scrub out part of the kitchen, her bathroom or vacuum at least. She just doesn't care. I've been doing this for 13 years. I've never said anything, I sure don't want to hurt her feelings EVER - she's one of the most wonderful people I've ever known.

I'd just... travel with cleaning supplies. I find they really do come in handy. I'm also pretty sensitive to mold. Sorry you had that experience, that would have been really freaky. But i wouldn't tell your friend about it.

[shootingstar]

I have bad allergies to mold. Maybe that is why it freaked me out.

This is understandable. My dearie is that sensitive to indoor molds too. We cannot have potted plants much at all because of the natural molds in soils, etc. He cannot go into a plant conservatory/greenhouse --molds.

It partially explains why he might be more of neat freak than I am. He gets mad at me over my less diligent habits.

Well, the only saving grace of living out in the prairies, is the air is dry enough that bathroom molds don't grow much or any at all. No kidding....

As a guest, I would at least appreciate a clean bathroom sink and toilet in someone's home. That's good enough for me....unless I'm staying overnight to use their shower.

Mould. Ok, for busy sisters who have their own children to look after when I stay over, it's more like bits of hair from hair brushing. Oh well. This continues to be a perpetual annoyance..but thank god for vaccum cleaner.

I know I have a somewhat laissez-faire approach but...look I grew up sharing a bathroom with 7 other people (which included 5 siblings). So I know what types of messiness I can tolerate.

Yes, alot of mold is yuck.