I used the Toupe for a while. It's definitely a hard saddle. Your sit bones will get used to it, but it takes a little time. If you like a plusher saddle, this one probably isn't it.

Is your bike shop fitting you to the saddle? When you say you're moving around a lot, this could be because the saddle needs its fore/aft position adjusted. In general, you don't want to be tipping the saddle up or down to achieve a comfortable fit. This is an indication that the saddle is a bad fit and could lead to other issues (like hand numbness) later on.

Where are you at in Upstate NY? I'm in the Hudson Valley and have a great Specialized dealer, depending on where you are.