For cycling shoe makers who make shoes in Euro sizes, I found that the Euro size between the mens and womens shoes is pretty much the same. For example, I can buy a pair of Specialized shoes in Euro size 41 in either a mens or womens and the shoes fit the same.

It is easy to buy the specific shoe you want. You have to try a shoe on by that manufacturer to determine the size, as the manufacturers don't have universal or consistent sizing within their industry. Merely find a LBS that sells that maker of shoe. Try any shoe on by that maker to determine the size. Then order the shoe you want through the LBS. The LBS will have a catalog of everything produced by that specific shoe maker.

Finally, does it really matter what the shoe looks like? I mean who is going to see it except for other cyclists, and other cyclists don't care. What is important is that the shoe fits, and for a road shoe it has a stiff sole, the shoe takes the type of cleat to fit the pedals, and the buckling mechanism is easy for a person to use. One female cyclist I knew still had flat pedals on her road bike, was thinking about getting clipless pedals, didn't know which kind because she hadn't done the research, yet spent hours of her life going around to different bike shops trying on bike shoes and not liking them because of the color, etc. I didn't get it. Choose the pedals, then choose the shoes, make sure the shoes have all of the requirements, but what they look like should be of the least importance.