Asking for a little prayer...

[Brandi]

What can you say? Just let her know you love her! And again make this time you have the best you can possibly make it. Like I said some of us don't get a chance to know what it is that will be our end. Maybe that is better but some people don't live their life then it is gone. Try to just be there for her. And if she doesn't want chemo and radiation support her. I would not want my last months on earth being sick like that unless I knew it would help. My thoughts and healing prayer's are with you both.
I have a friend who lost her sister to a rare cancer some years back her sister was only 34. I spent time right after with my friend for a few weeks. She loved and supported her sister like you are and in the end she was glad they just lived with the time they had left. But she did not like seeing all the treatment her sister went through it was not good.

[drgynfyr]

lots of prayes and wishes for you Brandi ((hugs))

[ASammy1]

Oh ((((Linda))))... I'm so sorry for this latest news.

+1000 on what Crankin said... I know that this must be very hard on your sister, but we are here for you too.

[Atlas]

My thoughts are with your family. (hugs)

[Norse]

I am so sorry Linda. ((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))). When my Dad went through lung cancer, he initially chose chemo, even though they said it may only extend his life 6 months at the most. At that point, he felt like he needed to at least try something and was not willing to "quit" yet. This is how he viewed it and it is a very personal decision and one that only your sister can make knowing she has the full love and support of her wonderful sister and family in whatever her choices. For my Dad, the chemo did not help. It only made his last few months that much more painful and I wish he would not have suffered like that, but, it made him feel that he went down fighting and that's what he needed.

You and your sister are in my thoughts.

[PamNY]

I'm so sorry to hear this latest news. I know you are a great support for your sister, and will give her strength and love.

[GLC1968]

Linda - I'm so sorry to hear the latest. My thoughts are with both you and your sister in this difficult time. I agree with Norsegoddess - the decision has to be hers. Some would choose to fight no matter what the cost and what the outcome, others would rather not. The choices is so incredibly personal and it's up to you to 1) support her no matter what her decision and 2) take care of yourself too.

[sundial]

Just being with her will bring her comfort. You both are in unchartered waters and there's no how-to guide for dealing with cancer. Comfort becomes a priority and she will need you as she comes to terms with her cancer. There will be an ebb and flow to her acceptance of the disease and with time together you both can help determine the course of action for her treatment.

[Reesha]

I have no comprehension of how difficult this must be for your sister and yourself, so I have no advice. Instead I'm sending some positive vibes and thoughts your way!

[tulip]

Listen to her and let her talk. I was just visiting with a friend today who is in the late stages of cancer. She's very frustrated that she can't finish all the things she set out to do. She also talked about some regrets. And reflected on what a good life she has had and all the wonderful things she has done and all the incredible people she has met. I just let her talk and we both just held each other and cried. I told her she is so loved. That's all I could think of to say.

My heart aches for you and your sister.

[Brandi]

lots of prayes and wishes for you Brandi ((hugs))

I pass this on to Linda

[emily_in_nc]

Linda, what terrible news. I don't have much to add to what the wise, caring women here have already said except to relate my grandmother's story. She was diagnosed with breast cancer in her early 90s and chose the no treatment approach (based on her age, not the stage of the cancer). We all supported her, as did her doctor. She made every effort to enjoy the time she had left, although she was pretty much bedridden at the end. And I'm sure treatment would not have changed that. She lived until 94 with as much dignity as anyone could! Dignity and quality of life always trumps quantity, I think.

Hugs and warm thoughts to you and your sister.

[zoom-zoom]

Linda, I am so incredibly sorry. I send strength to you and your sister.

[shootingstar]

I'm sorry to hear the latest news. Be there with her.

[nscrbug]

Boy oh boy...this week has been nothing but one letdown after another. My sister had decided that she wanted to seek out a 3rd opinion at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America (the place that runs commercials on tv). They have a Midwestern Regional facility a little over an hour away from us, so we all thought "she has nothing to lose" by going there and hearing what they have to offer. She called to set up the appointment and the representative she spoke with was very helpful and started initiating the process. She was actually excited and hopeful for the first time since being diagnosed. Well...she got a call back from them saying that there is some kind of out-of-network "loophole" with her Blue Cross/Blue Shield PPO plan...and her insurance will NOT cover the treatment at CTCA. Needless to say, she is devastated that her insurance won't cover being treated at this facility. So now we are back to square one again. She is going to talk with her HR department at work tomorrow (she works for the federal government in Medicare) and see if there is something that can be done. Please keep your fingers crossed for us!

Linda