Asking for a little prayer...

[Brandi]

What can you say? Just let her know you love her! And again make this time you have the best you can possibly make it. Like I said some of us don't get a chance to know what it is that will be our end. Maybe that is better but some people don't live their life then it is gone. Try to just be there for her. And if she doesn't want chemo and radiation support her. I would not want my last months on earth being sick like that unless I knew it would help. My thoughts and healing prayer's are with you both.
I have a friend who lost her sister to a rare cancer some years back her sister was only 34. I spent time right after with my friend for a few weeks. She loved and supported her sister like you are and in the end she was glad they just lived with the time they had left. But she did not like seeing all the treatment her sister went through it was not good.

[drgynfyr]

lots of prayes and wishes for you Brandi ((hugs))

[ASammy1]

Oh ((((Linda))))... I'm so sorry for this latest news.

+1000 on what Crankin said... I know that this must be very hard on your sister, but we are here for you too.

[Atlas]

My thoughts are with your family. (hugs)

[Norse]

I am so sorry Linda. ((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))). When my Dad went through lung cancer, he initially chose chemo, even though they said it may only extend his life 6 months at the most. At that point, he felt like he needed to at least try something and was not willing to "quit" yet. This is how he viewed it and it is a very personal decision and one that only your sister can make knowing she has the full love and support of her wonderful sister and family in whatever her choices. For my Dad, the chemo did not help. It only made his last few months that much more painful and I wish he would not have suffered like that, but, it made him feel that he went down fighting and that's what he needed.

You and your sister are in my thoughts.

[PamNY]

I'm so sorry to hear this latest news. I know you are a great support for your sister, and will give her strength and love.

[GLC1968]

Linda - I'm so sorry to hear the latest. My thoughts are with both you and your sister in this difficult time. I agree with Norsegoddess - the decision has to be hers. Some would choose to fight no matter what the cost and what the outcome, others would rather not. The choices is so incredibly personal and it's up to you to 1) support her no matter what her decision and 2) take care of yourself too.

[sundial]

Just being with her will bring her comfort. You both are in unchartered waters and there's no how-to guide for dealing with cancer. Comfort becomes a priority and she will need you as she comes to terms with her cancer. There will be an ebb and flow to her acceptance of the disease and with time together you both can help determine the course of action for her treatment.

[Brandi]

lots of prayes and wishes for you Brandi ((hugs))

I pass this on to Linda

[emily_in_nc]

Linda, what terrible news. I don't have much to add to what the wise, caring women here have already said except to relate my grandmother's story. She was diagnosed with breast cancer in her early 90s and chose the no treatment approach (based on her age, not the stage of the cancer). We all supported her, as did her doctor. She made every effort to enjoy the time she had left, although she was pretty much bedridden at the end. And I'm sure treatment would not have changed that. She lived until 94 with as much dignity as anyone could! Dignity and quality of life always trumps quantity, I think.

Hugs and warm thoughts to you and your sister.

[zoom-zoom]

Linda, I am so incredibly sorry. I send strength to you and your sister.