There are several charity rides (with a minimum fundraising amount of at least $200 plus the $35 or whatever registration fee) that I do not participate in just because I am not personally connected enough with the cause to feel good about asking people for money for it. I'm glad the ride is for a good cause, but really, I would be doing it for my own recreational purposes, and I don't feel right asking people to contribute to that. I realize that I am in the minority. It does not, and maybe should not, bother most people. If I had a personal interest in the cause, I think I would feel differently.
I also don't hit up my fellow cyclists for donations and hope they will return the favor. What is the point of exchanging donations back and forth between us? (This is just me with my cycling friends. I am NOT saying you shouldn't ask for help on this site or Facebook or whatever because that has worked well for some of you) I do some charity fundraising rides that just have a registration fee, but limit myself to the MS150 every year and just write the check myself. Once I had a friend whose mother had MS who volunteered to do the fundraising for me, and that was lovely!
I think that some type of fundraising event is a good idea, even if it is just having a candy jar at the office asking for donations or a bake sale or the examples already given of having a chili party or some other type of meal.
It is good that most people aren't like me or the charities would be in trouble!
Grits
2010 Trek 5.2 Madone WSD, SI Diva Gel Flow
2002 Terry Classic, Terry Liberator