My husband ugh!!!

[OakLeaf]

Silver, I did get that idea from this end, and I think it's really unfortunate. We miss you.

I don't get some of the hostility in this thread. Lots of us share lots of personal information on TE, from the shape and size of our labia (hopefully only in the saddle and saddle-related threads ), to issues with care giving and child rearing. Brandi is more than welcome to vent here, as far as I'm concerned.

[lph]

what she said.

+ lots.

[Brandi]

Venting is what I am doing. I don't say much persoanl things on fb anyway and not about my husband ever, Unless "We went camping" or "we went to the movies". He has this way of trying to accuse me of things when he is going through a rough patch. This fb thing was an excuse to get mad at me. And I promise you he spends ALLLLLLLLL day on his computer this is not a cry for mu attention. With that I like everyones comments on the issue many different views. Now hi ho hi ho it's off to work I go. Today working on the beach. A rare one for me! post pic's later.

[margo49]

I reckon you guys will work it out...but in the meantime ...sad to hear yr going thru this.
Thinking of ya!

[Melalvai]

My husband also has issues with how much information is shared publicly and he is uncomfortable with the level of info that I am willing to share. His definition of public is broader than mine, as well. So we've been through these same discussions, debates, arguments, and even fights. Over the past 18 years we've compromised: I am more thoughtful and careful about what I post, and he has become less paranoid. But we have a LONG way to go yet before we are both comfortable.

One of the things I have learned is to develop an attitude of curiosity. For example, let's say he's being completely unreasonable. Well, I know that we are both smart people. Yet somehow we have come to completely different conclusions. Therefore I must be lacking some information. I may not be able to get that info very easily: he may not be able to share that missing bit of info with me. He might not know it himself, not consciously. Or he might not be able to explain it. It can take a lot of patience.

There is a fundamental difference in our personalities in some respects. I am naturally trusting (perhaps too trusting) and he is naturally paranoid (perhaps too paranoid). I have a higher standard of cleanliness and a lower tolerance for messiness. I have become MORE of a neat freak (I was a bit of a slob before I met him), but I have become more cautious--so we do change, sometimes to exacerbate differences and sometimes to become more alike.

Good luck during your learning experience!

[Cataboo]

I am way more likely to tell people on this forum that my bike saddle makes my hoohaw hurt than I would be to post anything about my hoohaw on facebook. IN that way, I'm way more likely to post personal things on an anonymous internet forum than under my name on facebook when I know my family members are reading it.

[Bike Writer]

As a public official I rarely post anything of a real personal nature anywhere because I live in a fishbowl and my life is transparent, this includes having my address, phone number and personal email be part of public information. Not everybody wants that type of scrutiny but it comes with the territory.

About the only time I feel free to say anything personal is in conversation with my family and a few very close friends.

[sgtiger]

I am way more likely to tell people on this forum that my bike saddle makes my hoohaw hurt than I would be to post anything about my hoohaw on facebook. IN that way, I'm way more likely to post personal things on an anonymous internet forum than under my name on facebook when I know my family members are reading it.

+1

There the info. in being thrown out at unsuspecting people when they may be least expecting or wanting of the state of their friend's/acquaintance's genitals. Here there's usually some warning in the thread title. If someone is not interested in discussing hooohaws and whatnots, they can avoid the thread.