Valentine musings

[crazycanuck]

Hi melody,

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's passing. *Stomp* *stomp* Life is so unfair as someone has already said. I'm sure that your friendship meant alot to him & his family will understand you're absence at the memorial.


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[Crankin]

Well, I like Valentine's Day... (sorry). Not that my husband and i need an excuse to buy stuff for each other or go out! We do that all of the time. My mom and dad always made a big deal out of it and I remember when i was little, my dad coming home with big boxes of chocolates for both of us and a piece of jewelry for my mom and some small gift for me. I still have the little handkerchief with the red hearts i got when i was 4. We usually just go out for dinner to a nice place, and since it's usually during the week, it's a nice break. I get my husband things like massages or gift certificates to bike stores. We don't always give gifts, either. This morning, I got an early present of 2 beautiful wool sweaters from Italy, where my husband just returned from a business trip.
At school, we don't do anything. i teach in a middle school and the idea of "love" makes a lot of them uncomfortable. I had my homeroom decorate my door with some hearts and stuff, and that satisfied them. Some will exchange gifts and cards with friends, but I told them to keep it outside of school, so no one feels badly.

[pkq]

I also don't like being made a fuss of; spend time with me, make me laugh, be yourself: that's what matters.

Ditto! Many people are stingy with their time these days.

[margo49]

I agree tlkiwi...
the SO was just explaining a few weeks ago to our nearly 17 yo daughter that the reason we didn't go in for what she calls romance like "everybody else" (whoever they are or their parents) was exactly that.
"We don't have to resuscitate our relationship or do something "special" to make up for some act or omission that the partner may or may not know about"


Of course all us kiwi's and ozzies know that the basis of all emotional life is mate-ship; whether the framework is legal marriage, working together,neighbours,or whatever. Whaddya reckon Roadraven? Can't wait to see your input to this thread

[SadieKate]

I love all these stories. Warm and fuzzy stories are wonderful.

No one should apologize for liking Valentine's Day. I like it myself but hate the crass commercialism of American capitalism going with it, just like all the other holidays overrunning the stores months before the event.

[ladyfish]

This has been a fun thread to read, since I'm sitting here wishing I could get out of my DH's Valentine gift. We're set to go to a formal (yes, black tie, etc) dinner and dance. He's looking forward to it because he will know a lot of the folks there (work friends). I on the other hand, will know maybe one person, someone I've met, but don't really know. I'd much rather stay home and have a bottle of wine and watch the snow fall.

Oh well. I'll go because he wants to. That's what it's all about--compromise. He does things for me that I know he'd rather not do. We'll have a good time.

As for gifts, we don't much get into that. He's the type that will go out on Valentine's day to the grocery store and buy some flowers because he thinks he should. It's a hokey day all around.

[Technotart]

I have been working non-stop for weeks on my final "thesis" type project for my masters and this morning my hubby made me heart shaped pancakes with sugar free syryp and then gave me a neck and shoulder rub with some aromatic oil while I sat in my computer chair at my desk and worked on my paper...such a sweet guy - I feel so blessed! In addition - he did all the laundry today, took the tyke to the gym to play, did the dishes AND made dinner and cleaned up after! As if cleaning and dinner weren't enough he ices the cake with the heart shaped pancakes and a shoulder massage <swoon!>

When I get this last semester over with, the poor guy is going to get some MUCH deserved attention!!!!

You know though - he does this all the time - not just for valentines day! Valentines day is just an excuse to give each other cards with nice long notes written in them that make each other cry and smile because it feels good to be acknolwedged and appreciated.

[bcipam]

Technotart: You sound very fortunate. I agree loving someone means showing it all year long, not just on the 14th!!! Make sure you give him a big hug from all of us!

[kiwi girl]

I sent my BF flowers one year when we were living in seperate cities. I sent them to his work and I think he was actually pretty chuffed about it. But now we are living together I think doing something on a particular day just because Halmark tells us to is pretty silly.

Besides, if he was buying stuff because he was sucked in by the advertising he'd get me some jewellery I'd never wear - when what I really want is this http://www.teamestrogen.com/products.asp?pID=18198

[Lise]

Oh, kiwi friends, what does chuffed mean? Good or bad? Lise

[Melody]

Oh, kiwi friends, what does chuffed mean? Good or bad? Lise

Chuffed is a good thing. Kind of like excited or "feeling good" I've seen it in brit literature too.

Mel

[kiwi girl]

Yup - chuffed in this sense is all good

[tatormc]

Well I'm the one who likes to celebrate Valentines and other holidays, but hubby does not. He feels that if there is something I want I should just go buy it instead of him doing it and wrapping it up. But this morning he surprised me! Before leaving he brings me a card. On the front is a pic of a bicycle chain in the shape of a heart and the card says Unchain my heart. He then wrote the sweetest thing inside and also on the inside was a gift card to the LBS. I'm so proud of him!!

[AuntieK]

tatormc,
You are so lucky to have a guy like that! What a creative idea! I may have to go out and do something similar for my DH now! I'm glad you posted--you've inspired me!

[Brandi]

I only like Valentines day cause it is an excuse for my husband and i to go to our favorite sushi place! We will take any excuse for that." got another bill in the mail! Let's go have sushi"! Hey the cat cuaght another mouse, Let's have sushi!