1+ on deskrider. The fact that when you are forward you experience pain, plus your hands feel pressure, it points to the saddle not being the correct one for you. What maybe happening is that in order to avoid the discomfort on your private area you are seating to far back of the saddle and this causes tail bone issues on some riders. Try to find a saddle that you can seat with more of your whole body ( back as well as front) and your private part does not get so affected, also use a good chamois cream and I am talking about the types that ultra- endurance or hardcore racers use.