Following on from Sydney B...

if you're going to delegate/share you can't in all fairness then turn round and criticise the way it's been done. So you will have to accept that the job has been done even if you're less than happy with the result. (Within reason) And you can always give instructions beforehand or for next time (always make it clear your instruction is for "next time" and not going to be construed as a criticism of "this time" )

Most of the time tho' these things are about being over-tired oneself or feeling under-appreciated (which is usually just needing to hear it *said* in actual specific words rather than what SO and kids *actually* think of you )

This and the Lance and Sheryl Split thread have given me a few things to be thankful about...