I know you've already got all the feedback you need, but....

My slobs really respond to written lists. And, yes, when you are stressed out, all you really want is to come home to some order and feel like home is a place of calm control.

I like Katherine Hepburn's idea that men and women were never meant to live together, just to visit each other! My sister has one room in the house he's not allowed to enter (like Bluebeard's closet) and that's her sanity room.