To be or not to be - gray

[katluvr]

Scanned most of this thread.
I have almost shoulder length hair. At age 40 I finally grew it out (it was short short for 20 years), then I bobbed it and now it is a bit longer (I am 47 now). I started with high & low lights, now I get the roots taken care of and high/low lights too as needed. I am really good friends with my professional stylist...and she makes me look great.
My hair is not very carefree, but it is what I want/need right now. I really don't know when I will decide to give it up and go grey. Right now I would say never. I don't think I have a nice natural grey (yet) and still fighting the looks of aging.
I guess if I could not afford it, I would give it up. But it is my splurge and I like what I see in the mirror.

K

[shootingstar]

A good friend visited me.... I had not seen her for past 12 months.

she is 55 yrs. or so. She has allowed her black hair to turn naturally grey--moderately. Not just a couple strands.

Also a long-time cyclist.

We didn't even notice/talk about her greyness. Be with some women who care about health but less about hair colour. Maybe it might help..abit??

[marni]

years ago I received a2:00 AM call from my sister who was still living at home, informing me that she was disobeying our mother and calling to let us know that Muz was having open heart surgery the next day. I got on the next flight from Atlanta to LA with my six week old, still at the breast baby daughter, and arrived about an hour before she was due to go into surgery. They had already started to ice her down, and she was pretty well sedated. I walked into the room and saw her there hooked up to all kinds of machines and all I could focus on was the gray hair. She had been a redhead all of her life and hadn't thought to tell me that she had stopped dying her hair 6 months before. There I stood alternately thinking "don't faint you'll drop the baby" and "omg she's going to die" "don't faint you'll drop the baby" "omg she's going to die."

That is one of the reasons I have not nor will I ever dye my hair to cover up my gray.

[Selkie]

Is this thread revival a sign from above? I have to go an extra week between appts (7 vs 6) because the stylist who does my cut/color is out of town. Yesterday, I noticed how much more sparkling white is in my hair, now that I can see more of the regrowth, and I thought it might time to let it go natural. I am very very lucky---both parents had gorgeous sparkling white grey, so genetics blessed me w/the same. I turned 48 in February. There's a woman in my office in her 70s who dyes her hair red (actually, she goes to a salon, I was shocked to learn). It's the most improbable color and when it fades, well, you get the picture. Since my chosen color is red, I get frightened that I might end up sportin' that look as I get even more white strands.

Unfortunately, I don't have the face for super short hair, so the growing out period is going to be very rough. Maybe I'll get a wig.

I also don't think the stylist will agree that it's time because I still have a good bit of my natural color left. Maybe we can do highlights as it grows out or something? I can't wait until it's 90-100% white.

I refuse to say GREY. It's not GREY, it's white.

[Dogmama]

There's a woman in my office in her 70s who dyes her hair red (actually, she goes to a salon, I was shocked to learn). It's the most improbable color and when it fades, well, you get the picture.

LOL - I know a woman who has orange/red hair & has it done in a salon. I call it "a color not found in nature."

[Selkie]

LOL - I know a woman who has orange/red hair & has it done in a salon. I call it "a color not found in nature."

I thought my coworker's hair was a DIY job, it's that bad. Poor thing thinks it looks great and was boasting at how she pays a lot to have it done. Shame on the stylist! Of course, knowing my coworker, she probably insists, even if the stylist tried to talk her out of it.

This one is pure red. No copper tones. Bright red that fades to pink. Oy vey. I think the orange one probably looks better!