Since I started this thread, I've been doing highlights/low lights. Found out that my gray is very resistant to color. My hairdresser, who I do like, sometimes really blows it & my highlights are too yellow, but it does hide any gray hairs. Unfortunately, blonde hair totally washes me out (I'm naturally dark brunette.) So, I can go blonde & be washed out, or go darker but have the gray roots show more (I'm about 25% gray.)

Honestly, I'm getting tired of messing with it. I have to be careful in a pool - putting special conditioners on, I have to wear a hat in the sun, use special shampoos & condition like crazy. It's just shoulder length and I'm thinking about just letting it be gray. If I do it now, I won't have to suffer the skunk gray stripe while I'm growing it out - or do a Jamie Curtis cut. I like being able to pull it back in the gym, when I'm lazy or when I'm hot flashing.

I do resent, as was stated, that men get to be gray and distinguished. They also get to be a little chunkier as they age. The good news is that we don't have to worry about E.D.!