V has a point - given each of our own body types, etc. comparisons to others can be self defeating. Sometimes you can spin those comparisons to the positive, though. It's such a mental thing. So much depends on your mindset at the time. I have been where you are - where I might have let that get me down. Now I am trying to use "rabbits" like that in a positive motivational way.

Last weekend halfway through the 300k, we hooked up with a male friend and a female acquaintance I had just met the weekend before. I didn't know this woman at all; she wasn't built like a cyclist or stick insect. I was pretty shocked when she just rode all of us off her wheel on rolling hills - terrain that never happens to me on. I commented to my friend mike that this girl was super strong and he said yeah she placed well in the triple crown stage race last year! I had no idea and felt a little better. As it turned out, we finished the 300k about 5 mins after she did. So now I'm looking at this woman as a role model - in a positive but not beating myself up about it way.