A lot of saddles now come in different widths (specialized body geometry ones for example) have a saddle that is too narrow can put undo pressure on your lady parts...some bike store will have this little squishy seat thing that will measure you sit bones and give you a better idea if you need something a little less or more wide than the average saddle width. When you get the weight back onto your sit bones you won't have as much forward pressure and you won't feel the need to hold yourself up with your hand (eliminating the numbness and pain there too )