Great discussion!

I was never a kid, until my 30s. I had a very difficult younger life and had to take responsibility for my younger siblings (as well as my parents) as a child. I went to college and med school as a way to get out of the house and to be responsible for myself. Finally, in my late 20s I had enough time and money to "be a kid".

For a while I did the rock climbing, etc. high risk sports. But a few years ago I realized that it wasn't for me. I was doing a lot of stuff because I could and not because I loved it. I'm more comfortable being active in a "lower risk" way. My decision wasn't based on anyone else's perception but on MY comfort level.

Now I lead a deliberately boring life: a house, a job, 2 dogs, 2 cats and a long term SO. And I LOVE it.

I think that people should be allowed to do what makes them happy as long as they're taking responsibility for themselves and not putting anyone else at risk. That includes people who are dependent on them, such as their spouses, children, etc.

I know a lot of people who do extreme skiing, climbing, and river rafting. When I talk to them I don't think, "Wow, I'm missing some great stuff". I think, "I'm so glad I'm not stressing myself out doing that anymore. I'm glad they're happy."