Thanks, peeps.

*sigh* yeah, I checked it out, and while I'll leave the diagnosing to the professionals, a lot did ring true.

Part of what has been making this difficult is this persons tendency to downplay and redefine what was said and written, and why, at a later point. Or at best blame being "a bit too spontaneous". But I'm done trying to guess what was "really" meant. If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, and when I get hit in the face with it - it feels like a duck - it doesn't really matter if the person wielding it insists that it's just a cute little duckling...