Dear So and So

[indysteel]

lph, it SO sounds you're making a great decision. Your friend sounds like she has Borderline Personality Disorder. The leading book on it is called "I Hate You Don't Leave Me." Sound familiar? That's obviously a very arm chair diagnosis but Borderlines are darn near impossible to deal with. It's sometimes better to cut your losses and run for cover. Unfortunately, Borderlines ca be very charismatic, so it's sometimes hard to recognize their toxicity at first.

Good luck. I'm sorry you lost a friend. That's never easy.

[Crankin]

Pretty good, for an armchair diagnosis!

[lph]

Thanks, peeps.

*sigh* yeah, I checked it out, and while I'll leave the diagnosing to the professionals, a lot did ring true.

Part of what has been making this difficult is this persons tendency to downplay and redefine what was said and written, and why, at a later point. Or at best blame being "a bit too spontaneous". But I'm done trying to guess what was "really" meant. If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, and when I get hit in the face with it - it feels like a duck - it doesn't really matter if the person wielding it insists that it's just a cute little duckling...

[limewave]

Stay strong LPH. It will be better for both of you. Just keep to the well-defined boundaries you've laid out for your relationship (or lack of).

[Dogmama]

I would set my email to automatically trash any correspondence from that person. Nobody needs to have the life sucked out of them.

[tulip]

I would set my email to automatically trash any correspondence from that person. Nobody needs to have the life sucked out of them.

I did that with someone. Works like a charm.

[malkin]

Oh ick. Sounds like a real PITA.