Dear So and So

[NbyNW]

What Catrin said.

[crazycanuck]

Dear ex downgraded cyclone, tropical depression

I can handle a bit o heat but not with humidty..I really don't like it when it's 25C & 100% humidity @ 430am...but it seems you've decreased the humidty!!!!

Thank you for not causing too much damage out west.

Now, if you can tell your other tropical cyclone friends to leave Northern Queensland alone, it would be appreciated.

[lph]

Dear ex-friend,
I thought we had parted on somewhat amicable terms, without undue bitterness, and that we had agreed that breaking off all but random contact is the best thing. So why exactly did you feel the need to send me yet another e-mail telling me that you had deleted all of our considerable correspondence (and at the very same time waxing sentimental about the good old days)? And when I asked you to please not tell me stuff like that because it honestly hurts, why did you then have to reveal that you'd actually deleted it all earlier at some point but changed your mind? And when I repeated that I really don't want to be told this because it upsets me - why in the name of g*d did you have to tell me that you have now changed your mind, kept it all, and for what it's worth, you still consider me a friend. Nope. We broke up two weeks ago. To be absolutely technically correct - you broke up with me.

I'll hand it to you, though: this perfectly illustrates why I have to get away from you. You're generous and funny and a terrific friend when it suits you to be so, but your love of drama and self-pity way overshadows any true empathy you might feel. Just go away. I do not want to write any more posts on this thread about you.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I'll hand it to you, though: this perfectly illustrates why I have to get away from you. You're generous and funny and a terrific friend when it suits you to be so, but your love of drama and self-pity way overshadows any true empathy you might feel. Just go away. I do not want to write any more posts on this thread about you.

Sounds like you are making a healthy decision. Such 'friends' can be way too draining. I hope you find a more positive friend soon!

[indysteel]

lph, it SO sounds you're making a great decision. Your friend sounds like she has Borderline Personality Disorder. The leading book on it is called "I Hate You Don't Leave Me." Sound familiar? That's obviously a very arm chair diagnosis but Borderlines are darn near impossible to deal with. It's sometimes better to cut your losses and run for cover. Unfortunately, Borderlines ca be very charismatic, so it's sometimes hard to recognize their toxicity at first.

Good luck. I'm sorry you lost a friend. That's never easy.

[Crankin]

Pretty good, for an armchair diagnosis!

[lph]

Thanks, peeps.

*sigh* yeah, I checked it out, and while I'll leave the diagnosing to the professionals, a lot did ring true.

Part of what has been making this difficult is this persons tendency to downplay and redefine what was said and written, and why, at a later point. Or at best blame being "a bit too spontaneous". But I'm done trying to guess what was "really" meant. If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, and when I get hit in the face with it - it feels like a duck - it doesn't really matter if the person wielding it insists that it's just a cute little duckling...