I agree, notes or kind words are good. Cute/funny stuff that applies to a specific kid is good too--like a pack of bandaids from the parent of a kid who bites.

Often, I have re-gifted the other 'standard gift" stuff immediately.

The gifts of soap and lotion always make me wonder if I might have some personal hygiene issue that I am not aware of. I guess if anyone gives me deodorant or mouthwash I will know for sure!