Don't assume we all get on a bike and the saddle is wonderfully comfortable. In almost 40 years of riding, I have never had a comfortable saddle nor have my friends.

That said, it is a matter of conditioning. If I am riding alot (like in the summer) the saddle won't start to bother me until I've gone 40 - 50 miles. Right now, riding only weekends, the saddle bothers me much sooner (last weekend - as soon as I got on!).

I've tried all the saddles out there. I think its a rite of passage for us bike riders. I've settled on the Terry Butterfly (Ti) as being the most comfortable out there. It's not that wide but its not narrow; just right (for me). Then there is the whole idea of positioning... is the saddle tilted up or down too much, should it go forward or back? Is the seat post height correct? Where exactly is the saddle bothering you?

Something to consider is getting a professional fitting. A good fitter can address all these issues for you. If you can afford it or find someone local, do some research on line.

But bottom line you just need to ride the bike. Do short distances and allow everything to used to the wear and tear. As you ride more (and that is the key) things will get easier. Right now at your weight everything is going to be hard. I admire that you want to get out and do something about it. I struggle with weight as well (5'8" - 230) and there are times I just struggle while my skinny friends have no problems (hate them!). But I keep at it and every week find myself getting stronger and more use to the bike.