wrist ache

[Hell-uv-a-job]

I am even having difficulty holding on to my car steering wheel, my hands hurt. Gosh!! I am a mess, first the knee and now my wrists.
I have a commuter bike, with straight handle bar. I am thinking of three possible causes of my pain:
1) Carrying a lot of my upper body weight on my hands. I think i could raise the headset or maybe get a longer stem so the handlebar is closer to the body. But then, i have to consider my saddle since more weight would be going to my saddle... gezz...!! Is cycling this complicated? Maybe I am just putting too much tought.
2) I think the grips are too big, I have small hands.
3) Since my closest LBS is very short on supplies, I went ahead and got me some "male" fitted gloves, with the gel padding (my third set of gloves, can't get one I am comfortable with). As a matter of fact, as dumb as it would sound, the best gloves so far are my weight lifting gloves . I think the last I purshased are too small. Where's the spellcheck?