you can dump that saddle! get in your car and drive down to the bike shop.
start looking at saddles. try some of th MTB saddles, tell them you want something a little wider. DO NOT be talked into one of those HUGE CUSHY saddles that look like a tractor seat. these will make matters worse. But dump that bontrager (I couldn't sit on mine either, and i weigh 130 pounds dripping wet) as fast as you can.
an MTB saddle might not be the right one, but they're not real expensive and they will be a great improvement.

Good luck.