Quote Originally Posted by Muirenn View Post
How about:

For this appointment make it a talking-only appointment. No exam, no disrobing and scooting to the end of the table This way she develops a relationship with her future doctor/midwife/nurse. She can ask questions and has time to get used to the idea with no pressure.

And perhaps stress to your daughter that it's up to her to decide when. If she has to sit out of swimming then that's is what happens until she is ready.

If she wants to swim badly enough, she may change her mind. But leave it up to her.

I know I wouldn't have been able to handle a pelvic at 15.
+ 1 !!!!!

Talk only at the first visit! Oh my goodness, if a tampon is too painful then a speculum would so much worse!