You all are awesome. Thanks for the support!! She's not speaking to me at the moment, she's not exactly angry at me, I'm just the focus of her anger & frustration. I just feel so sorry for her! I have an appt set for Thurs, a lead on midwives, I'm willing to drive to Columbia for Planned Parenthood, and a lead on another doctor who I have been promised is very good about presenting all the options, telling you which one she favors, and letting you make the choice (also located in Columbia). At the moment I'm inclined to reschedule or cancel the Thurs appt to give her time to get used to the idea of a pelvic exam.