loaner to couple: desperately seeking advice

[indigoiis]

My DH is a loner. It took him a long time (ten years and a year and a half break) before he could open up to let me be a part of his life. The wait was worth it to me. Although it is hard for me sometimes (I am not a loner, but I am not exactly a social butterfly, either) because he is not typical or conventional in any way, and is very true to himself and quite honest - and sometimes that can get on my nerves. But I let love guide me. Love always wins. I truly believe this! If your heart wants this thing to happen, let it happen, and enjoy it. You can maintain your integrity and sense of independence while still being a part of someone else's life. Especially if you let your heart be your guide!

[RolliePollie]

TsPoet - I hope things work out great for you guys!!! As a long time singler person/loner, I'm sure I would feel some of the same hesitation that you're feeling. It's great that you guys talked and that things seem better now!

I am having the opposite issue with my best friend who is a single guy. For the first time in a rather long friendship (like years), he is seeing someone. And I haven't dated during our friendship either. Unfortunately for me, I didn't realize the depth of feelings I had for him until he started seeing someone else. Evidently I've been living on the hope that he'd change his mind about me. Now I'm feeling completely heart-broken. I can't even eat, which is not something I've ever experienced before! I think the only thing I can do at this point is just stay away from him. I just need to get over my feelings for him because I can't go through this heart break again. I wish him happiness but at the same time I am so incredibly sad for me. Wah

So two totally different endings to single man/single woman friendships I guess? I always thought I'd love to end up marrying my best friend. I guess sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I'm glad yours seems to be working out!!!

[shootingstar]

TsPoet - I hope things work out great for you guys!!! As a long time singler person/loner, I'm sure I would feel some of the same hesitation that you're feeling. It's great that you guys talked and that things seem better now!

I am having the opposite issue with my best friend who is a single guy. For the first time in a rather long friendship (like years), he is seeing someone. And I haven't dated during our friendship either. Unfortunately for me, I didn't realize the depth of feelings I had for him until he started seeing someone else. Evidently I've been living on the hope that he'd change his mind about me. Now I'm feeling completely heart-broken. I can't even eat, which is not something I've ever experienced before! I think the only thing I can do at this point is just stay away from him. I just need to get over my feelings for him because I can't go through this heart break again. I wish him happiness but at the same time I am so incredibly sad for me. Wah

So two totally different endings to single man/single woman friendships I guess? I always thought I'd love to end up marrying my best friend. I guess sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I'm glad yours seems to be working out!!!

Rollie, after awhile, men and also some women, cannot read each other's minds. Sometimes one just has to express heart-felt feelings in a nice way.

I'm sorry the realization came abit too late for you.

[RolliePollie]

Rollie, after awhile, men and also some women, cannot read each other's minds. Sometimes one just has to express heart-felt feelings in a nice way.

I'm sorry the realization came abit too late for you.

Yeah, true. I'm sure, though, that he does know my feelings for him run deeper than his for me. I've told him that I'd be interested in trying out more than friends but he wouldn't go there. I guess you can't force someone to love you or even like you more than they do and I'm thankful for the friendship we've had. Just sad now that I think it's coming to an end. I really would've loved for things to turn out differently.