It's just a matter of fit.
Some women can wear men's jeans. Other women, no way no how.
Some women can ride men's bikes. Other women, ditto.
Try them both out. See which fits you better.
But I don't know about the look. What brands have you looked at? I was just sitting on some Trek WSD bikes at an expo today and there was nothing flowery about them. Nothing flowery about my WSD Cannondale either. Mine is royal blue, white and clearcoat over the black carbon, a pretty gender-neutral color scheme. Bianchi, well, that celeste looks girly to me whether it's on a man's bike or a woman's.
To my eye, Orbeas are seriously "aggro," as you put it, in either the WSD or the men's. Felts are beautiful and not at all girly.
More useful to complain that many manufacturers don't sell a complete bike with the highest-end componentry; but honestly, I think that's more because women are more particular than men about what they buy, and if we're spending that kind of money, we're going to build a bike up exactly the way we want it.
Last edited by OakLeaf; 07-24-2010 at 11:32 AM.
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