Have you looked into anything by IllumiNITE? It's clothing that is reflective and it's the greatest thing since sliced bread! I can't really tell anything when lights hit me the material just turns a dull gray - but I've noticed there isn't this "roaring up behind me and then swerving at the last minute" thing going on anymore. One night I was riding home in the dark with my IllumiNITE gear on, plus the headlights, blinkie rearlights etc etc and a police car shone his spot on me - don't know what he saw but he turned the spot off fairly quickly after it hit me. I must've lit up like a Christmas Tree!
I wear a jacket and leg warmers in this material. I also bought a pair of overtights.
Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand, strawberries in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming: "Yeah Baby! What a Ride!"