When one half of a couple is interested in a sport and other has no interest, it can be an emotional strain.

Lot of wonderful suggestion and especially from shefly and bicilista. One aspect of the typical relationship problem people have not voiced is maybe he is physically competitive in his mind.

Let me explain.

There are guys who feel that they have to be stronger, faster, and have more stamina than a woman. They may be a couch potato snorting Cheez-it in front of a TV. But when we the weaker sex starts out in endurance sport or in racing, their belief is shattered.

The reaction of SO are wildly varied. Some are okay with it, others react in negative fashion.

Irulan is so right. There may be some other issues and not just cycling. Counseling is in order.

FYI my ex didn't ride and when I said "I'll commute on my bike and you take the car to work... I would like to buy a new bike " $800 or so back 30 years ago. It didn't go over well. We ended up buying the sluggo a brand new racing bike. Bianchi. It was way too big for me to ride. Waste of money which we didn't have. and only one car.

Question for you is do you want to save your relationship? sounds like you do or you wouldn't be asking.

Will you be okay if you are limited in what you are allowed to do?

How would you feel if one day you wake up and realize that you let life slip by...

Is he more important in the long run?

Have you considered that racing season is just that a season when he sees a little less of you and will he be accepting of the compromise?

Again counseling is in order.

You are not alone, not the first, not the last with this perpetual problem we all face. There isn't a single answer. However, do pick the best solution that fits you.

Also look into training method which requires less time.

Wish you the best and welcome back to the forum.