Glad you had a great race.
You're "frenemy" sounds jealous. I ride often with racers, yes during racing season my husband can suck the fun out of it because he is training but he will ride with me. This summer I am finally making friends that have boyfriends that race but they don't so I am hoping the fall season I will have friends to keep my occupied. I wouldn't let this person bug you, there are tons of people who will enjoy your company!
On DH, he is probably just being jealous and regrets that he can't do the same. Maybe when he is over it he will be supportive. My own husband gets jealous that I get to go to do things (charity rides, women's clinics) while he is working. It is hard on them, hope it works out for you and you can keep racing.
Amanda
2011 Specialized Epic Comp 29er | Specialized Phenom | "Marie Laveau"
2007 Cannondale Synapse Carbon Road | Selle Italia Lady Gel Flow | "Miranda"
You don't have to be great to get started, but you do have to get started to be great. -Lee J. Colan