depression

[PamNY]

Does she have a medical doctor who might recommend someone? That can be a good starting point.

[tulip]

She might want to contact a grief support group for starters. It's really worth it to talk to someone, but it can be hard to take that first step, particularly if one is depressed and feeling powerless. Encourage her to start with a grief support group or a women's center.

I had a great therapist that I found on a website that listed Licensed Clinical Social Workers in my area. That might be a good place to start, too.

[rocknrollgirl]

I had to see someone a few years ago for post traumatic stress syndrome after I witnessed a friend killed in an accident. I am a teacher so I asked the
school psychologist to recommend someone.

I agree with the grief group also, great idea.

[NbyNW]

There may also be referral services through her health insurance if she has it. She can call them up and keep it general, just as you said it: grief, strain in a relationship. And then they would provide her with a short list of counselors in her area who also meet her insurance company's criteria for claims & reimbursement.

[Crankin]

All good suggestions. May I add looking at community mental health clinics (usually staffed by LICSWs and LMHCs) or agencies related to religions... Catholic Charities, Jewish Family and Children's Service.
Ask friends, too. Just remember that someone who might be a good therapist for me might not work for someone else at all. It really is all about the relationship.

[channlluv]

Most therapists will give her a brief first meeting, too, to see if they're a good match for each other.

I found that regular exercise really helped me a lot with my depression. I was able to get off medication within a couple of months of regular cycling. I was off the meds for about a year and a half when I was in that car accident in February. Within two weeks of no activity at all, I was having depressive episodes/breakdowns. I had to go back on the meds until I can get my activity level back up, which will be in the next month or so, I hope. (I sprained my wrist and have been unable to get back on the bike for more than eight miles.)

I totally get the no meds thing, but sometimes they do serve a purpose. The difference is pretty significant.

Good luck to her.

Roxy

[redrhodie]

Wow, such good suggestions. Thank you.

Her NP suggested she meet with the mental health person at the clinic she goes to for her annual GYN screenings. She was hesitant because of the clinic setting, but I'll try to convince her to check it out. I think I need to give her an encouraging push right now while she's considering it. I guess that's a good a place as any for her to start her search.

[colorisnt]

I definitely agree with the above suggestions and understand the uneasiness to both see a psychiatrist or therapist and take medication. I have been there myself. I have clinical depression, OCD, and anxiety. I am medicated now, but did try to control it with talk therapy alone for quite some time. I have been helped most by therapists that are licensed social workers. I tried group therapy, too, for awhile, but there are some things I don't care to discuss there, so individual sessions are also important.

As said above, one thing that really, really helps me is exercise. A therapist and/or psychiatrist will probably suggest that she attempt to exercise if possible because it really, really does work.

I hope your friend finds some relief and a safe place to go and discuss her situation.

[SheFly]

I think I need to give her an encouraging push right now while she's considering it.

Thank you.

Thank you for being such a good friend, and offering to help. Depression is a disease that can ultimately kill (as I know too well, having lost my brother last year). Helping your friend to get the help she needs is an honorable thing to do.

the good news is that she is asking for help. The even better news is that she asked YOU for that help, and you are following through. She is very lucky.

Keep up the great work.

SheFly