Just wanted to update this thread. I ended up buying a Selle SMP saddle a few days ago. My first ride was a few times around the block just to get a feel for it. It felt good!

DH (who has never complained about his stock saddle) was so intrigued by the design of the SMP that the next morning he took my bike out to give the saddle a try. He ended up liking it so much that he ordered a Selle SMP for himself! He said he never realized how good a saddle could feel until he rode a different one

I have my first metric-century coming up next weekend so this morning I thought I'd do a short 10 miler to see if that short distance still felt ok. It felt SO ok that I did 28 miles and only cut it short because I was riding solo and needed to go potty!

The Selle SMP saddle rocks my world! I felt no pain at all, just pressure on the sit bones which I figure is normal given that it's a new saddle and a new-to-me saddle. For once I could actually ride while thinking about something other than my crotch!LOL! LOL! LOL!

I've learned so much from this forum - thanks everyone Oh and btw, after a full week I think the numbness in my crotch is starting to subside.