FWIW - I think your grandma may still be grieving, and she is taking that out on the rest of the family. She lost her son just under a year ago - trust me when I tell you that isn't a very long time. She was used to a routine where he stopped by every day, and now, that routine has changed. None of us like change, but at 87, change is even more difficult to manage.

Crankin' is right that relatives don't have a pass to treat family badly, but I think (based on what little I know from reading here) that there may be some other circumstances at work here.

Norse - sorry about the loss of your dad. It is, however, VERY difficult for parents to outlive their children (I've seen this in my own parents). At least SOME consideration should be given to where she is in the grieving process.

SheFly