Quote Originally Posted by Norsegoddess View Post
... She would prefer the family make sure she gets to all her appointments and stops to visit frequently (she noted that my dad stopped every day - I guess she expects the same from others). I am just lucky I don't live in the same town, but my mom and a sibling are the frequent recipients of that guilt trip...
I'm sorry, but this bothers me. It's okay for your Aunt to be expected to go to the next state to help with your sister and family, but not okay for the family closest (geographically) to your grandma to help out with her?

This just seems like a double standard.

Your grandma is lonely, and the only way she may know how to express it is through complaining. You can't change her. But you can change your reaction to her if you want to. I hope you and your family find peace in this.