Thank you, these are good suggestions. I'll try to bear them in mind, and not get caught up into defending myself. I did explain what had happened (in rather explosive language, I'm afraid), and he didn't want to believe me.

I'm going to talk with him today, but with a basic background of distrust I'm not really too optimistic. There is a pattern, but I'm not a therapist and I honestly don't want that burden.

Thanks again, ladies, and sorry for hogging the thread.