bit of a bummer post

[tulip]

Hey, newtobikesmama...I'm awfully tempted to bet that cycling isn't the only arena that this behavior pattern occurs. I would just encourage you to take a deep and broad look at the whole picture, and if there's something there that needs to be worked on, please go work on it with a professional. I've been there, and stuff like this has the tendency to fester if not addressed. Festering is never good.

In the meantime, go ride your bike if that is what YOU want to do.

[newtobikesmama]

thank everyone for the advice!!! you girls are so sweet. everyone is right. we are in counseling, there are other issues involved. I just want to get to the point where I can ride without feeling guilty, and that is on me! I bought the bike without guilt, I should be able to ride without guilt!!! Hugs to everyone. And thank you SOOOOO much for the encouragement!!!!!!

[sgtiger]

+1 to Padres' advice about encouraging your husband to find his own activity and finding a common interest to share.

Newtobikesmama, you deserve to have some alone time and time to exercise. It's important for your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Definitely not something to feel guilty about when you're only trying to replenish your spiritual "bank."


Crankin, I agree about not painting all husbands with a broad brush. I've been blessed with one who has been supportive of me in my endeavors.