bit of a bummer post

[KatieJean]

Newtobikes---I also used to feel guilty for riding, as it took time away from my family. I finally figured out that if I rode in the morning when they are still asleep, no one will notice, and I have nothing to feel guilty about. (I have since realized that the guilt was self-induced, and now I'll ride anytime that I'm not "needed" at home.) Can you ride at a time when you aren't "needed" by your hubby? Early morning or some other time that is already not a shared time? Try to put into words the joy you get from your rides. Once your husband realizes how much you enjoy the bike time, hopefully he will encourage you instead of guilt-tripping you.

[crazycanuck]

I agree with Pardes..get on your bike & ignore the whinges! Just ride.

Let your dear sit in the house.

[OakLeaf]

Ugh ... my husband used to do the same thing. I confronted him, enough times that it stopped being an issue. At this point I honestly can't say whether he doesn't do it any more, or whether I just quit feeling guilty. Just go and ride.

[Bike Chick]

Your husband can't make you feel guilty---that's something you are doing all by yourself. It's a curse we women have. We feel responsible for everyone else's feelings and try to keep everyone happy. It's an impossible task.

You are entitled to enjoy a solo activity, have time to yourself a few times a week and get some exercise. It will make you a better wife and mother and a happier person. Think of the example you are setting for your children. Go ride your bike and quit feeling guilty, mom. Hubby will adjust.

PS: Does your husband golf, fish or have any other hobby or activity? I'm sure he doesn't feel guilty when he leaves the house for a few hours.

[shootingstar]

Even if he doesn't have his own hobby, go ahead and cycle.

I get the opposite, if I don't cycle for awhile, my dearie gets concerned for me. And I would for him.

And we don't we even cycle together --60% of time we're each cycling alone on our own. He has a home-based biz..

[indysteel]

Your husband can't make you feel guilty---that's something you are doing all by yourself. It's a curse we women have. We feel responsible for everyone else's feelings and try to keep everyone happy. It's an impossible task.

You are entitled to enjoy a solo activity, have time to yourself a few times a week and get some exercise. It will make you a better wife and mother and a happier person. Think of the example you are setting for your children. Go ride your bike and quit feeling guilty, mom. Hubby will adjust.

+1.

Is this typical of your husband? Is there some underlying insecurity that your cycling triggers for him? Regardless of how you answer those questions, if you want to ride, ride. While it would be nice to have your husband's blessing, you don't need it or his permission. I don't think you need to be confrontational about it. Just calmly tell him that you're going for a ride. If he resists, tell him you're sorry he feels that way and that you're nevertheless going for the ride. Then go and enjoy yourself. He'll catch on.

[Zen]

This is why I don't want a husband.

[sundial]

This is why I don't want a husband.

But they're handy for opening stubborn lids.

[TsPoet]

This is why I don't want a husband.

You and I agree on something!