Eden - I'm in a similiar situation to you. We are in our early 40's, we've only been married for 7 years, we both started second careers in our early 30's and frankly, because of all this, we often have more in common with people who are 10-15 years younger than us. Except that those people are not at the same 'place' as we are in terms of life and experience...so it gets complicated.

I am LOVING having met a bunch of new friends here in Oregon that are our age, active, and also don't have kids. I feel like my life is blossoming again.

That said, I rarely think about aging much. I guess if I were to criticize myself more for something other than my overweight-ness, then I'd see it. But frankly, with that staring me in the face, I specifically try NOT to focus on the other things that might not be so perfect so that I don't get too, too down on myself! In fact, that's partly why I started coloring my hair again. The grey just didn't jive with the age I feel and I really didn't need any additional hits to my self-esteem right now.

I will admit to noticing how flawless some of the high school swim team girls' bodies are...(I share a locker room with them at the pool). I catch myself bemoaning that I'll never look like that again. Then I laugh at myself and remember that I didn't look like that when I was their age, so what's the point of getting depressed about it?!