Interesting opinions. I guess I am always shocked when younger people have ideas that seem more conservative than mine. I think I must be a rare person. I have been happily married for 26 years in a very equal relationship. There's been a lot of give and take on both sides, but what it comes down to is that despite the fact it's 2005, we all have to work very hard to not slip back into traditional roles. That, and the fact that it seems that there are very few people out there who seem emotionally stable and well, "normal." By normal, i don't mean like a nuclear family with 2.5 kids, but mentally healthy. How did we all get so screwed up? I am a litle bit younger than the first wave feminists (52), but I never questioned the fact that i would have a career and raise kids. I was married to a real loser for a short time and decided that I would never put myself in that position again when I remarried. I have always worked, took very short maternity leaves (6 wks. to 4 months) and my kids who are now grown are the most wonderful respectful and non judgemental men you could find. We worked hard for this to happen. I could have never stayed home and I knew it, but my kids were planned and wanted. Daycare didn't harm them a bit. I respect those who stay home a lot, I just knew it wasn't for me. Plus, I wanted my kids to be raised the way I was raised and when I was first married, that took both of our salaries. I know that some feel this is selfish and we should have sacrificed, but we all did well. So you single girls, keep looking. There are men who respect women and want to be equal partners.