My mother was a pretty radical feminist in her era... and shocked and horrified her peers when she said that she believed that women should do what they wanted with their careers, and she wanted to raise a lot of children and do it well. (She had a psych degree.)
She did just that - and raised us all with pretty all-inclusive-ist values. It wasn't hypocrisy. I'm sure no marriage is perfect, either, but there really *was* mutual respect and sacrifice. The obvious question is whether the respect would have been maintained had she wanted to be a physicist instead of my father. Dunno.
Three of my siblings have lasting marriages, too; three of us are stalwartly single. (I maintain that there isn't anybody out there smart enough to keep up with me and dumb enough to put up wtih me... and more importantly I keep forgetting to be unhappy... though it has been a little odd watching how many other single chickies join the bike club and get hitched up pretty quickly.)