The old fashion tradional notion of a relationship and marriage has long since gone out the window what with the 60's and feminism, changing morals, divorce, all the things that affect a relationship. Bottom line, men and women are different. It's in the genes and meant to be. Yes there are women who tend to be more like men (that's me - I tend to see things as a man does and am not as nuturing and supportive as most women would be) and there are men who are effeminate, sensitive, willing to take on non-traditional roles of caretaker, house dad etc.

What a couple does in a relationship is between them but once kids come into the equation compromise is necessary. I don't care which parent agrees to do this, but one should stay home and raise the children. Both men and women are equally good at this although I feel most women are better with babies and dads are better after the child reaches school age. Alot of women that I know have this notion that they have to be successful in business and make lots of money but on the other hand, they also want the traditional trappings of having and raising a family. Not to say it can't be done, but it does take a super person to do it all and I have yet to see it done successfully.

I just wonder when it became a bad thing to want to raise kids and when it became a good thing that women need to work to have a personality or identity. Yes there are women who stay home, raise kids and are isolated from the world but most stay at home moms that I know (my two sisters included) are really on the ball. My sisters manage the home finances, the children's schooling, get involved in outside volunteer activities (mostly though school and church) and know how to put gas in their car. Women who don't choose not to know.

For instance, my roommate's (a man) girlfriend was "bragging" (in my opinion) about not being able to cook or clean. I looked at her and in front of the roommate (yes I was being alittle mean) said, "no one with any intelligence can say they can't cook... they choose not to cook and like someone else do it for them." She had to admit that was true. Hey if you aren't interested you aren't interested!

Anyway, I guess I am rambling. Bottom line, I know how to have a good relationship, but I just not seem to be attracted to the right men. Now obviously I choose to be attractive to the wrong guy... what's up with that?