another bike date... he neglected to mention...

[slinkedog]

Okay... here's my 2 cents worth. I'm a stay at home mom. I worked from the time my oldest was 2 mos. old until she was 8, when I had remarried and had her brother. Having had it both ways, I am SO grateful that my husband works so hard so that I can stay home with our kids. I hated working while my daughter was being cared for by someone else.

My job is here at home. My husband's is at his office (and our home office, many nights and weekends, much as he hates that.) We have no problems with our roles because we try really hard to always put each others' needs ahead of our own. When you're both making that happen, it works great. Of course we have times where we don't do a good job of living up to the ideal; we deal with those issues as they arise, but I have to say that we don't have them very often. My husband is great and I am so thankful for him!! I think the biblical notion of the wife obeying her husband is very misunderstood and taken out of context. I believe that men through the centuries have abused that idea horribly without themselves obeying the command they were given- to love their wives enough to die for them and to treat them accordingly.

I think when you have a partnership of mutual giving, it works. When you have a relationship where each person is most interested in having things on their own terms, there is tension, resentment and loss of respect. At least that's what I experienced in my first marriage.

Not meaning to preach... just sharing my opinion.