another bike date... he neglected to mention...

[Yasmin]

One day, I realized that at no time had anyone, anywhere, anyhow, lectured my husband on supporting me in MY career, even though I am just as talented and was having real breakthroughs with my own work, such as a book contract with a major publisher. That's how intense the pressure is on women. I like the idea that the pressure is on both partners in a relationship, but I don't see it.

See, See, See...that's my point!!!. It's expected of us. We're not really that far removed from the child-like 1950's housewife who was perpetually nice & self-sacrificing for her hard-working husband (no one thought child rearing consisted of hard work in those days). My husbands parents "celebrated" 50yrs of marriage about 3 years ago. Her comment: "I should be awarded a gold medal for putting up with him". What bitterness & resentment this oozes. No one can give up their goals, their life & not have resentment.

Bcipam wrote:"A marriage must be a true partnership to work but sometimes that means one must give up their own goals and aspirations to support those of the spouse"....
Excuse me for saying this but, are you serious? Would your husband do likewise? I know of one husband who gave up his career for that of his wife's (she's a surgeon) & that marriage is on the rocks. I know many women with high school/ university aged children who are now resentful of what they've given up.