I hear good stories about online dating all the time. I just haven't had those experiences. Not certain why, but there is this very strange group of men that are attracted to me. I get alot of responses but from men I am not interested in. Would like to know why they keep contacting me. Maybe they believe me to be "desperate" thus "easy." Couldn't be farther from the truth. I have learned and enjoy the fact I don't need a man in my life - well, a romantic relationship with a man. I love men and seek their company and enjoy being around them and are mostly what I have for friends. But I am at that age do I really want to live someone else's life (ie the man's) and not my own? My own is not all that bad. I see too many women once they get connected with a guy, give up their own life (and their kids, pets and family) to be with the guy and live his life (ie do what he wants). My current roommate (a guy) is seriously dating a woman who not only has given up all her prior social contacts but her son as well (OK he's 17 but still needs a mom). I think her to be of weak constitution and lacking good moral fiber. My roommate could care cause he has a steady lay.

As for the physical connection - I cautious everyone, especially the younger women, to not have sex all that soon once entering a relationship. Why? once the physical connection is made, the mental connections seem to jump out the window. Sex is a powerful drug and will cloud many a mind - both male and female. I think that's one reason so many marriages end in failure now a days. Folks have sex too soon. They get married for all the wrong reasons and when the sex frenzy fades (and it will), it's too late to discover there is nothing else.

If the relationship was meant to be - he and/she will wait for sex. Can't beat developing a solid friendship beforehand, making sure this potential life partner matches up morally, spiriturally and then physically.

And I know when it is time, sometime will occur and if it does not occur it was not meant to be. It maybe my fate in life to remain stubbornly independant!