another bike date... he neglected to mention...

[mtbdarby]

Way to go bikerchick! And if he has a brother send him my way....

I am not doing so well on match (or cycling singles for that matter). Let's see, the one guy I started to click with gave me a feeling he was still married. Yep - do I have a magnet that attracts unavailable guys?? The next guy I talked to on the phone then he changes his profile to a bitter harsh thang and hides it the next day. WTH? My old boyfriend wants to get back together again and I'm thinking maybe that's the way to go. I do have feelings for him and he's a great friend. I've just been so darn hesitant to give my heart to someone else since the love of my life walked out last march. I never would have thought it would take this long to get over him. Just when I think I'm doing fine, he pops back into my head/heart. I'm thinking maybe I just shouldn't be dating at all still. It's really not a priority for me anyway although I do get lonely sometimes. Maybe if I keep rambling I'll figure this out, huh? Anyway, thanks for listening - I've been meaning to get that off my chest for a bit, lol.

[AllezGirl]

Wow...this thread is appropriate! I just had my first real "date" in 8 years with a guy that I met through cyclingsingles.com! We met at a local microbrew and it was one of those evenings where you look at your watch and think WOW...where did the last 4 hours go! He even sent me an email the next day to thank me for the great conversation and said I must look "stunning in lycra" (That comment earned him BIG brownie points!)...so yes I think there will be a second date there! In the meantime, a single guy friend and I have decided to go at this dating thing with a vengance! We are going to help each other set up profiles on Match.com and even try speed dating! I'll keep you posted...................

2nd date is official...he called today, we're going to dinner on Friday!

[bikerchick68]

Lise- I'm using Match.com as well... I tried cyclingsingles.com but was only get winks from guys in Timbuktu... how can you "date" someone who lives 300 miles away???

KSH- you're probably right... I have no hope of kicking this guys butt tho He said this was only his second ride since June... he's been off the bike. When he said that I was pedaling my azz off and wondering how he rides when he's in shape then!

Trek- man, you're right on... doesn't matter which team... someone is either active and happy with ya or not and annoyed with you for being active! Long rides are time consuming... and an inactive partner may be annoyed that you're "prioritizing" biking and rides over them. It's tough to find that perfect harmony of physical fitness, mental and physical attraction and activity level... if it wasn't, heck, I wouldn't be posting about all my nutty dates... I'd be posting about my SO!

mtbdarby... first of all, as to men who are online when married... JERKS! UGH! I have a real issue with that... I've had lots of guys contact me who are "currently separated"... I have made it a point to acknowledge every person who contacts me and thank them for the interest... the separated guys get the "thank you and when you are DIVORCED let me know..." Yeah, I'm SO not into dating a "tweener"... As to dating your ex... why do you want to? Is it because you really want to be in a relationship with him again, or because you're lonely? Have the reasons for the initial break up been resolved and changed for the better? No need to answer here, just ask yourself that stuff OK? Who knows... maybe things will work out... just be sure why you want back in... I'm with ya... dating is TOUGH!

Allez girl... OMG... HUGE brownie points!!! Stunning in lycra... wow... now for me... I'm always more worried that the guys will be STUNNED by how I look in lycra... No way to hide any flaws with bike shorts on now is there? LOL... I figure if they like me in bike gear they're gonna LOVE how I look in a dress! Have fun at dinner... hope it's GREAT!

[Trek420]

bikerchick68 says "Trek- man, you're right on... doesn't matter which team... someone is either active and happy with ya or not and annoyed with you for being active!"

I dunno about that. I think there are a lot of established happy couples who have divergent interests. I think if the relationship's established, long term and happy and you like different things; you discover cycling and he'd rather knit, it can be fine.

I don't think you have to be attached at the hip, far from it. It's most important that both people have common values.

"Long rides are time consuming... and an inactive partner may be annoyed that you're "prioritizing" biking and rides over them."

You got that right, we're all so busy these days that time can be a biggie. and to a non-rider "you ride how far? " can be a deal-breaker

[mtbdarby]

Bikerchick, I have asked myself those questions. In the three months since I broke up with him I simply miss him - miss talking to him, miss biking with him. He has come to understand that it's best if we don't spend all our time together too so I think we stand a better chance this go round. Of course, I could be moving in the next month for my job so it's all up in the air right now. I'm not that lonely that I want to go out with someone just to go out with someone. I enjoy my company too much The introvert side of me likes my space and I'm thinking he finally gets that.

Now, if I could get over the cat smell in his house....