another bike date... he neglected to mention...

[bikerchick68]

So the whole online thing has suddenly taken off for me... I had SIX dates last week Two were repeats (2nd dates! Yeah... I'm no longer the "one date wonder"!!!!)

So one guy I met on Thursday... we had already agreed to ride Sat but wanted to meet BEFORE the ride for coffee... so we meet and spend several hours talking... everything's going well... we talk bikes, components, gear etc... then he casually throws out there that he did Ironman a few years ago OMG! Now I'm scared... really, really scared... he's gonna KILL me on the bike! I make him promise not to drop me, and he agrees... (the last guy who promised dropped me anyway! the one before that I rode 9mph with so I DIDN'T drop him!)

So we meet Sat and had decided to do about 30 miles... ahem... yeah, well that turned into 47... This guy was SO cool... he did NOT drop me, and yes, he could have... but we stayed together, chatted, he told me I'm a sandbagger cause I rode faster than I claimed (a little self preservation on my part telling him I was slow... ya know... just in case!) and generally had a good ride...

so we SAG at 30 miles in and then start the last 20... into a STRONG headwind... gasp... NOW I'm truly slow! The wind was stinkin' HOWLING! LOL...

just before we rode back to where we'd parked we caught a red light... I told him he could "put another notch in his seatpost, cause he wore my butt out!" First time I heard him truly belly laugh!

No idea if he's interested in anything more than friendship and a ride buddy, but dang it was fun!

Tonight is date #3 with another guy too...

So how's everyone else doing???

[Lise]

Ah, bikerchick, you're giving me hope! He sounds like a cool guy, and you're cool for going at it with all you've got.

I've signed back up with match.com, and now can't access their website for love or money. I've spent untold hours talking with people in India, trying to resolve the computer problem. Don't know what the solution will be, but trying not to take it as a message from above that I'm not meant to date! So how are you meeting these guys? Somewhere in a post on here, the point was made about competitiveness on biking dates. I went on one biking date yeeeeears ago. I remember just riding as hard as I could, dropping my date. This was a bad move, date wise! It did make it clear to me that I didn't really like this guy, other than the "looking at you from across the room" kind of liking!

Good luck to you--keep us posted on your adventures!

Lise

[Trek420]

bikerchick68 "So how's everyone else doing???"

still single. so ask iron-man guy if he has a sister

[KSH]

Hey... I bet he was really hyped to find a lady who cycles!

It's hard for a man to find a women who is into cycling... and being athletic!

AND... Most men's ego's don't like it when women can kick their butts... he was probably very happy to "lag" behind some for you!

Keep giving us the date reports... very cool to hear about it!

[Yasmin]

Sounds really good. Looking forward to hearing your update.

[Trek420]

KSH sez "It's hard for a man to find a women who is into cycling... and being athletic!"

I dunno if it's the national tendency to have so much "screen time" tv, computer, or because I'm hecka old and many of my peers are more or less sedentary, but it's simply hard to find active people dare I say "our" age.

It's not that "the gal o' my dreams" would have to ride but what I've found is that more or less sedentary folk can go quickly from "I would always encourage you to ride" to "what? you wanna ride again? you did that last month".

So in a perfect world the next DP of Trek would know this "comes with the territory", not to be crass but "ya want the legs? I gotta get outside. hopefully, with you".

Wondering if the other single TE gals find that to be true? I think whichever team you bat for it's an issue ;-)

One things certain I'm truly thankful to have a great supportive family. I have a wonderful diverse group of friends who share my values, politics, love of food, art, my quirky sense of humor. They don't ride, heck I can barely get them to walk but they'll gladly join in the recovery meal after. And I have a fabulous community of friends IRL and online who ride and they've got the quirky sense of humor and those other things down pat.

And of course my dog loves me, and that trumps all. So things could be far worse ;-)

"Keep giving us the date reports... very cool to hear about it!"

Thought we were going to get reviews? " I give so-and-so on match.com 5 chain rings". Or is that just tooo tacky?

[mtbdarby]

Way to go bikerchick! And if he has a brother send him my way....

I am not doing so well on match (or cycling singles for that matter). Let's see, the one guy I started to click with gave me a feeling he was still married. Yep - do I have a magnet that attracts unavailable guys?? The next guy I talked to on the phone then he changes his profile to a bitter harsh thang and hides it the next day. WTH? My old boyfriend wants to get back together again and I'm thinking maybe that's the way to go. I do have feelings for him and he's a great friend. I've just been so darn hesitant to give my heart to someone else since the love of my life walked out last march. I never would have thought it would take this long to get over him. Just when I think I'm doing fine, he pops back into my head/heart. I'm thinking maybe I just shouldn't be dating at all still. It's really not a priority for me anyway although I do get lonely sometimes. Maybe if I keep rambling I'll figure this out, huh? Anyway, thanks for listening - I've been meaning to get that off my chest for a bit, lol.

[AllezGirl]

Wow...this thread is appropriate! I just had my first real "date" in 8 years with a guy that I met through cyclingsingles.com! We met at a local microbrew and it was one of those evenings where you look at your watch and think WOW...where did the last 4 hours go! He even sent me an email the next day to thank me for the great conversation and said I must look "stunning in lycra" (That comment earned him BIG brownie points!)...so yes I think there will be a second date there! In the meantime, a single guy friend and I have decided to go at this dating thing with a vengance! We are going to help each other set up profiles on Match.com and even try speed dating! I'll keep you posted...................

2nd date is official...he called today, we're going to dinner on Friday!

[bikerchick68]

Lise- I'm using Match.com as well... I tried cyclingsingles.com but was only get winks from guys in Timbuktu... how can you "date" someone who lives 300 miles away???

KSH- you're probably right... I have no hope of kicking this guys butt tho He said this was only his second ride since June... he's been off the bike. When he said that I was pedaling my azz off and wondering how he rides when he's in shape then!

Trek- man, you're right on... doesn't matter which team... someone is either active and happy with ya or not and annoyed with you for being active! Long rides are time consuming... and an inactive partner may be annoyed that you're "prioritizing" biking and rides over them. It's tough to find that perfect harmony of physical fitness, mental and physical attraction and activity level... if it wasn't, heck, I wouldn't be posting about all my nutty dates... I'd be posting about my SO!

mtbdarby... first of all, as to men who are online when married... JERKS! UGH! I have a real issue with that... I've had lots of guys contact me who are "currently separated"... I have made it a point to acknowledge every person who contacts me and thank them for the interest... the separated guys get the "thank you and when you are DIVORCED let me know..." Yeah, I'm SO not into dating a "tweener"... As to dating your ex... why do you want to? Is it because you really want to be in a relationship with him again, or because you're lonely? Have the reasons for the initial break up been resolved and changed for the better? No need to answer here, just ask yourself that stuff OK? Who knows... maybe things will work out... just be sure why you want back in... I'm with ya... dating is TOUGH!

Allez girl... OMG... HUGE brownie points!!! Stunning in lycra... wow... now for me... I'm always more worried that the guys will be STUNNED by how I look in lycra... No way to hide any flaws with bike shorts on now is there? LOL... I figure if they like me in bike gear they're gonna LOVE how I look in a dress! Have fun at dinner... hope it's GREAT!

[Trek420]

bikerchick68 says "Trek- man, you're right on... doesn't matter which team... someone is either active and happy with ya or not and annoyed with you for being active!"

I dunno about that. I think there are a lot of established happy couples who have divergent interests. I think if the relationship's established, long term and happy and you like different things; you discover cycling and he'd rather knit, it can be fine.

I don't think you have to be attached at the hip, far from it. It's most important that both people have common values.

"Long rides are time consuming... and an inactive partner may be annoyed that you're "prioritizing" biking and rides over them."

You got that right, we're all so busy these days that time can be a biggie. and to a non-rider "you ride how far? " can be a deal-breaker

[mtbdarby]

Bikerchick, I have asked myself those questions. In the three months since I broke up with him I simply miss him - miss talking to him, miss biking with him. He has come to understand that it's best if we don't spend all our time together too so I think we stand a better chance this go round. Of course, I could be moving in the next month for my job so it's all up in the air right now. I'm not that lonely that I want to go out with someone just to go out with someone. I enjoy my company too much The introvert side of me likes my space and I'm thinking he finally gets that.

Now, if I could get over the cat smell in his house....

[VenusdeVelo]

..from my vantage point...I'll admit it, I am married...so these are great to read. Bikerchick, I think he may be a keeper. No dropping? That's (biker) love Well, at least infatuation.

And Trek...I have a sister-in-law who's athletic...does that count?? Living IN Wi...

[Trek420]

LOL that VenusdeVelo writes "And Trek...I have a sister-in-law who's athletic...does that count?? Living IN Wi..."

Thanks, Venus, that's real flattering that you'd even consider introducing me to your family but I'm trying to keep things local

No long distance relationships for me. Bikeless in WI is my sister, she's Norwegian (and married) and now is in WI for a year, I'm in California. Confused yet?

I knew it'd happen, this board is soooo helpfull and supportive, we share tips and and tricks, the odd spare pair of bike shorts or shoes that don't fit so it was only a matter of time till members start reccomending their relatives to the single gals ;-)

and mtbdarby, Fabreeze works wonders on pet smell

[mtbdarby]

Trek, I am a die hard Fabreeze user already! Good schtuf!

[Trek420]

yeah, but what do you do about all the pet hair? Mae's a short haired dog, and gets brushed often, still I could make another dog with all the hair

Spazzdog taught me a trick that helps some, still a constant battle