Quote Originally Posted by Flybye View Post
I have a love/hate relationship with Valentines Day.
I personally love it. I love the opportunity to do something small and nice to express how I feel to others. Last night I made steak, ham wrapped asparagus, and garlic red and purple potatoes. Small, nice presents for my mister and my kids.
On the other hand, I hate it for others who are single. I empathize with the woman in counseling who cried because she does not have an "other" to share the day with. Her self esteem is blow because of relationships with her father and her past husband. So sad. She is working hard to pull herself out of it but his is another obstacle.
I have a single friend that has a heightened awareness of his singlehood during this time. He is a fantastic man. It is hard to see him (and others) on what he calls "singles awareness day/ SAD."
You know Flybye, during the first few years of being with dearie, I actually forgot about Valentine's Day. Whereas he would buy me a pot of flowers, etc.

I think it was because I was single for a long time. I met him when I was 31. When I was single I sincerely didn't pay attention to Valentine's Day at all. You also have to remember that Chinese New Year's tends to fall between late January and mid-February, depending on the year. and my birthday falls at end of January so I already had 2 happy distractions to celebrate!

Just tell your single friends to celebrate Chinese New Year's. It really is time to also share love with family and platonic (or other) friends too.

Note: He and I usually celebrate V-day in a low-key way, which means no flourishes, expensive gifts. It's just another thoughtful day to us, like any other day.