Pam,
I wouldn't call myself a super athlete, either, in that I don't compete in any of the sports I do and as far as cycling goes, I am too slow to be with a fast group and too fast to be with a slow group...
I do really mean this. I just happen to be very disciplined and I have been since I started exercising in 1978. I don't *ever* talk about my "discipline," but when one of my non-exercising friends asks me what I'm doing/or did on the weekend or on one of my days off, I invariably will tell them, "Oh, I went snow shoeing, or I rode X number of miles." My life really does revolve around cycling and the winter sports I do. They don't want to hear about it. Sure, we go out to eat a lot, have a theatre subscription, watch an occasional movie. I read a lot, too. But, when it comes down to it, outdoor activity is my life. When I was a gym rat,it was "acceptable." That's what woman do; it didn't interfere with getting up early on a Sunday and going to hear a speaker at my synagogue, or doing volunteer work. That all went by the wayside when we both got into riding.
We spend a lot of time with another couple who ride, x country ski, and snow shoe with us. We go on vacation together and do the theatre thing together, too. I am doing what I want to do, also. I hate being socially isolated and I've always had an active social life. It's been a rare Saturday night that my DH and I have stayed home and we've been married 30 years. If people think that I am the "health police" by virtue of my lifestyle, well, I guess they will think it. I've talked about this with others in my cycling group, who are all older than 40 and have lived this lifestyle for many years. I couldn't begin to approximate some of the stuff they do, but I understand it and only give them kudos. But frankly, I have found that people, especially women, view this as being selfish, when it really is self care.