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[tulip]

I just did a google search. I do not know about that group or if it will suit you. Only you know that. Definitely ask your doctor. And give yourself the time and space that you need.

[indysteel]

((((Meaux))). I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself. I don't have any suggestions I' afraid. I just wanted to offer my sympathy. I sure hope you find the support you need.

[sundial]

Oh Meaux, I'm so sorry. Like the others have stated, I hope you find the support you need. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

[moderncyclista]

((((Meaux))))

Deepest sympathies. This is a good group of ladies here, for sure. I understand why you'd come to them for help. Everyone has given good advice. Again, so sorry. *hugs*

[mtbdarby]

Meaux - I am deeply sorry for your loss.

Eight years ago I lost my daughter at 14 weeks. I still find Christmas time to be difficult because of it. I can't help you with online forums but if you want to email me personally I'd be more than happy to talk to you about it. My neighbor lost her son recently and here they have an "angel" field at the cemetary for miscarriages and small nonfee memorial services (the headstone was very pricey though).

Best of luck to you and your family as you go through this difficult time.

[Crankin]

I went through the loss of a premature daughter (30 weeks) 28 years ago. Though it's a different situation, you are correct in that most people are speechless and say really stupid things.
You need to go through the normal grieving process, despite the fact many people don't see this as the same type of loss. Please, please contact either your ob's office or the hospital's social work/counseling department for local pregnancy loss support groups. I am not aware of any on line support for this; it will really help to talk to others who understand. If this seems like too much, a few counseling sessions with someone who specializes in loss/grief or women's issues may help.
We went to Compassionate Friends, which is a support group for people who have lost children. There were some people there who were still grieving over the deaths of children who had died many years before; when we saw that, it sort of snapped us out of the initial grief, because we did not want to be like the people we saw, 20 years later. One thing that helped me was just talking about my daughter, as though she was a real, living being, with friends. After I was able to talk about my hopes and dreams for her, I was able to "bury" them. I got pregnant again fairly quickly (5 months) and I was fine. People told me that I would "confuse" the babies and project my feelings about my daughter onto my son, but it never happened.
When I look at him as an adult, it only makes me smile to think about what kind of woman she would have become (she looked very much like him).

[sundial]

(((((((Mtbdarby and Crankin))))))))

I think parents are the most courageous people I know.