You know, it's a question of doing what is important to YOU and not caring what others think. I know that I can't tolerate clutter and dirt; so we make a point of not keeping stuff we really don't need and having good storage for the stuff we want. When my kids were at home, I shut the door to their rooms when they were teens. The rule was that all the crap had to picked up off of the floor the night before the cleaning people came... it was hard for me to shut the door, but I did it instead of constantly fighting with them. I hated spending weekend time on chores, so we made a schedule and got stuff like laundry done very early in the AM before work, or in the late afternoon, when I came home. My kids started doing their own laundry when they turned 13. Sure, they had some pink underwear, but at least I didn't have to do it! While my DH and I cooked, the kids always did the dishes/loaded the dishwasher.
I absolutely hate working in the yard and gardening. Not sure why, but DH enjoys it, thankfully. He sees it as a form of exercise. In the last few years, I have helped a little and I sort of understand the "zen" of it now.
My DH is even more anal than me about how things are kept (I tend to be a secret slob inside my hidden dresser drawers, etc. His are organized in military fashion). We have a continuing family joke about the consequences of loading the dishwasher "the wrong way."
I guess this is what happens when both partners have Jewish mothers!